Do you still remember the exciting times of the first dates with your partner? You were constantly checking your cell phone for short messages, sending her kiss emojis before going to sleep. You even skipped the football evening with your buddies. In short: You were pretty fired up. And then, secretly, everyday life has settled in with you. Evidence of love became rarer, time together became scarcer and arguments more frequent. Use our checklist to see if it’s time to go.
1. Everything about your partner bothers her
She nags around all the time, talks to her mother for hours on the phone and she never takes down the garbage. And it’s totally annoying that she always knows everything better. Are you embarrassed by your partner in front of your friends? That’s why you don’t take them anywhere anymore. She is constantly looking for things that she can criticize in you – you can hardly stand that? You don’t have to! If no conversation or a break helps in this stuck situation, then only the ripcord. After all, you shouldn’t waste your life getting angry.
2. They argue about every fart
Squabbles are perfectly normal. But a proper argument always requires a good reason and respectful interaction with one another. If you’re constantly struggling over the odds and ends like the trash, socks lying around, or the television program, something is wrong. And if you shoot below the belt at least as often, the furnace of love has definitely been out for a long time.
3. You would rather be in the office than at home
At the beginning of the relationship, you would even have made you sick for time with your loved one at work. They could hardly wait for the end of the day and the weekend. If you prefer to voluntarily work overtime and weekend work these days just so that you don’t have to sit with your partner over dinner or in front of the telly, that’s not a good sign.
4. You can’t wait for the men’s evening
One thing is certain: constantly crouching on top of each other is poison for the relationship and a guarantee for boredom. But if you have been deliberately planning more activities with friends and acquaintances lately in order to bypass the evening with your partner, the house blessing is really wrong. Also in the same category: You often have more fun alone with others in an evening than when she is there.
5. You find excuses for sex
Are you often too tired from the day or have a headache to have sex with her? Sure, it’s completely normal that you don’t jump into the same box as often as you did at the beginning of the relationship. But if you often find yourself trying to find poor excuses to bypass the hour, something is wrong. Then it may be due to a lack of attraction.
6. You flirt for all you know
No question about it: a non-binding flirtation is always okay. It doesn’t hurt anyone to check their market value now and then. However, if this turns into intensive attempts at tying up and you feel that confetti is already flying in your stomach, it is time to have a clarifying conversation at home. Real guys break up before you get into debt. On top of that, it is less complicated than driving two tracks.
7. They are no longer willing to make sacrifices for them
Can you call in the middle of the night? Do you pick you up from the party at any time? Are you willing to make room for your clothes in your closet? Do you plan your vacation when it suits you? If you find it harder and harder to make concessions of this kind and you can hardly see that you are backing up for yourself, this indicates a lack of interest in your partner. Stand up for yourself!
8. You cannot imagine a future with her
Suppose: twenty more years with your partner. A house, two children, a dog, three cats. If, with the best will in the world, you cannot picture your partner in such a life plan, that is clear. Stop wasting time living next to each other instead of together. Talk about it openly. Your partner may feel the same way and you will find a solution.
To be clear, routine is normal in every relationship. But when the common apartment becomes a focal point, the line is long overdue. You ask yourself: should I break up? These 8 signs are clear signals that you should rethink your partnership. A failed relationship does not automatically mean that you failed or fought too little. It just means that two people’s ideas did not match.