The good news for non-romantics: you don’t need an elaborate candlelight dinner or a super expensive wellness weekend to give your relationship a boost.
But that doesn’t mean that you can put your feet up and speculate that your partnership will still be as exciting and happy after years as it was at the beginning. Especially everyday life is not good for private happiness. After a day of work, household chores and other responsibilities, many long-term couples often fall into bed dead tired rather than falling on each other. That is frustrating in the long run.
What can be done about it? Sex dates, for example. But let’s be honest, even planning such a couple’s date is often stressful. Especially when children are also part of the relationship. But don’t worry: that doesn’t mean that the partnership will inevitably break up sooner or later. Because it is not always the big gestures that have the greatest effect – on the contrary, often the small things are decisive.
What is micro dating?
Micro-dating is the recipe for a stable partnership. It doesn’t mean staged tokens of love, but rather small, everyday appointments between a couple. These are moments when you give your partner full attention. An example: You lie on the couch in the evening. Instead of reading the sports news on your smartphone or diving into social networks, you can hug your loved one or look her in the eye, talk to her about her day. That creates closeness.
What does micro dating bring?
Do you remember the beginning of your relationship? Maybe you had little rituals back then that only the two of you knew about. Maybe you’ve spent hours on the phone, sent each other funny gifs before going to sleep or cooked together on the weekend. It wouldn’t be uncommon for those little things to get lost in your relationship at some point. This is completely normal, but shouldn’t become permanent.
Taking time for each other and consciously focusing on the other is the most important thing in your relationship. And that’s exactly why micro-dating works. Even scientists have proven that. For a study published in the journal Couple and Family Psychology: Research and Practice, US researchers analyzed the data of 120 students who live in monogamous relationships. The result: the couples who consciously enjoyed moments in their partnership were significantly more satisfied.